Relationships hold up a mirror to us—whether they are relationships with our family, children, colleagues, or, of course, our partner.
In our relationship with our partner, we encounter parts of our personal history and its influences, as well as those of our partner. The patterns each person brings from their history are mapped out in the initial sessions. These patterns form the foundation of our work together.
Sometimes, it may be necessary for partners to attend therapy individually for their personal growth and accountability. This is possible. Partners can follow separate therapy programs and occasionally come together for joint sessions.
The focus is on the unconscious patterns affecting both sides.
This can create a tension field, as it takes effort and awareness to recognize the patterns you bring into the relationship, those your partner brings, and how these interact. Discovering what emotions or expectations you “delegate” to your partner—and vice versa—is often the first step toward truly seeing each other.
Key questions may include:
- How free is the love between us?
- How do we give meaning to a shared life?
- How do we support each other’s processes to create a fulfilling “WE” space in the relationship, where both individuals can thrive?
Additionally, questions such as how to revitalize your sexual life can also be explored during therapy.